A new mother shared her frustrations on Reddit about never having time alone since her daughter’s birth two weeks ago. Her baby exclusively breastfed and found comfort in being close to her. “I’ve showered once by myself since having her,” she wrote, explaining that her showers lasted only a few minutes before her husband brought the crying baby to her.

In contrast, her husband’s routine remained unchanged, with uninterrupted showers. Each time the baby cried, he brought her to the mother instead of trying to calm her down himself, using the excuse that seeing the baby cry hurt him deeply.

Desperate for a break, the mother asked her own mom to watch the baby while she showered. When her husband found out, he was angry and said, “I could have watched her. Why would you do that?” She responded, “Every time you watch her while I shower, she ends up in here with me within 2 minutes because you don’t even try to calm her down.”

Commenters supported the mother, with one suggesting, “If, according to hubby, showers calm her down, why isn’t he taking her on his 30-60 minute showers?” Others advised locking the door during her showers and having a serious conversation about shared parenting responsibilities. “That night, my partner became an equal parent,” shared one commenter, emphasizing the importance of equitable parenting dynamics.